There's lots of movies about love, life and loss that touch me, but one recent movie in particular presents the subject of "complicated grief" very well -"Reign Over Me" starring Adam Sandler. It is about a man who has slipped out of reality after losing his wife and daughters on 9/11 and a past friend that runs into him. It was not a well liked movie, I can understand why, it touches on a subject that is hard for people to understand, relate to or want to deal with. If you have experienced instant loss of your spouse like I have or know someone who has I recommend seeing this movie.
I identify a lot with this character - his feelings and emotions, his childlike/youthful behavior, his abandonment of his career, his despair and frustration, his separation from those before, etc. As I sit and watch it again this evening, I realize again how much my grief is complicated and how I do not have words to always describe it. This movie speaks a lot for me.
Don Moss (8/4/63 - 7/29/04)